How to Make Out
A kiss is the most intimate and sensuous thing you can experience with another person. Unfortunately, while there’s no “right” way to kiss, many people experience anxiety about kissing.
Always be prepared. Whether you’re a man or a woman, always have lip balm or lip stick on hand, particularly if your lips tend to get dry and chapped. Every time your lips feel dry, put some on. Soft, smooth lips are simply more inviting. Above all, nobody wants to kiss someone with a stinky mouth, so carry some breath mints or gum with you, particularly if you’re going out on a date. Breath mints are preferable, because you can use them in a pinch and not have to worry about getting rid of them. Also make sure you stay well hydrated - a dry mouth usually will smell worse. And, of course, make sure you don’t have anything stuck in your teeth, either.
Wait for the right moment. There’s usually no hurry for a kiss, especially a first kiss with someone, so be patient and wait until the mood is right. Some good times are at a romantic movie after or during an onscreen kiss, or during an intimate conversation. Wait until the two of you are alone so that the other person will feel more comfortable and that nobody will see if your attempt to kiss is rejected. To avoid being rejected - get permission for the kiss. You don’t always have to ask if you can kiss someone, but you do need to make sure your partner is willing to kiss you. Stop whatever you’re doing and silently look into the person’s eyes for a moment or two. If your partner’s eyes drift down to your lips that’s a pretty good sign that he or she is ready for a kiss.
Approach slowly and smoothly - depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position.You just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position - you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact. Close your eyes after your lips meet to enhance the sensuality of the kiss.
There are many kinds of kisses, but your first kiss with someone should be gentle and romantic. Don’t press your mouth onto your partner’s - just let your lips meet, and don’t try to push your tongue into his or her mouth. A soft, closed-mouth-to-closed-mouth kiss is perfect. A lot of people (predominately men) seem to treat kisses as nothing more than a prelude to something else, and will try to quickly move into French kissing or start putting their hands in inappropriate places. Good kissers concentrate on the kiss, and they kiss expecting nothing more.
Let your partner take part in the kiss. Good kissing requires give-and-take, so read your partner’s body language and pay attention to cues (sighs or moans) that tell you you’re doing something he or she likes. Let your partner kiss you back, and move with him or her as long as you’re comfortable with what he or she is doing.
If you’re kissing for an extended period, it’s easy to forget to breathe. Gasping is not romantic. Take small breaths through your nose as you kiss.
Use your hands - embrace your partner, cup his or her face very gently in your hands, or run your hands through his or her hair.
Over time, you’ll want to try a variety of different kisses for different moods and times.Experiment, change it up to keep things interesting.
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